• W. Austin Gardner

Making your Spouse your Priority


Genesis 29:7 And he said, Lo, it is yet high day, neither is it time that the cattle should be gathered together: water ye the sheep, and go and feed them. 8 And they said, We cannot, until all the flocks be gathered together, and till they roll the stone from the well’s mouth; then we water the sheep. 9 And while he yet spake with them, Rachel came with her father’s sheep: for she kept them. 10 And it came to pass, when Jacob saw Rachel the daughter of Laban his mother’s brother, and the sheep of Laban his mother’s brother, that Jacob went near, and rolled the stone from the well’s mouth, and watered the flock of Laban his mother’s brother. 11 And Jacob kissed Rachel, and lifted up his voice, and wept. 12 And Jacob told Rachel that he was her father’s brother, and that he was Rebekah’s son: and she ran and told her father. 13 And it came to pass, when Laban heard the tidings of Jacob his sister’s son, that he ran to meet him, and embraced him, and kissed him, and brought him to his house. And he told Laban all these things. 14 And Laban said to him, Surely thou art my bone and my flesh. And he abode with him the space of a month. 15 And Laban said unto Jacob, Because thou art my brother, shouldest thou therefore serve me for nought? tell me, what shall thy wages be? 16 And Laban had two daughters: the name of the elder was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. 17 Leah was tender eyed; but Rachel was beautiful and well favoured. 18 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter. 19 And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me. 20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.

  1. Meet the needs of your spouse whether they meet yours or not Genesis 29:10 And it came to pass, when Jacob saw Rachel the daughter of Laban his mother’s brother, and the sheep of Laban his mother’s brother, that Jacob went near, and rolled the stone from the well’s mouth, and watered the flock of Laban his mother’s brother.

  2. Rachel couldn’t feed her sheep because she needed help with the large stone that covered the well

  3. Jacob did not need to be told what her need was because he was attentive-watching, paying attention, ready to serve

  4. The message today is not about you having a list to correct your spouse but to look at you and your actions

  5. Do you anticipate his or her needs before they ever mention them

  6. Are you attentive-watchful-caring

  7. God has already met your needs before you even realized your need

  8. He is the author and finisher of our faith Hebrews 12:2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

  9. He has tasted death for all men Hebrews 2:9 But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than the angels for the suffering of death, crowned with glory and honour; that he by the grace of God should taste death for every man.

  10. Salvation is a gift waiting on you to realize your need and accept it

  11. Showing your spouse their importance by the investment of time Genesis 29:20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.

  12. Jacob saw her and said that she was well worth the investment of 7 years of his life

  13. He loved her so much that the time flew by

  14. Would your family feel that they are a priority because of the way you manage your time?

  15. Do you need to rearrange your schedule?

  16. Do you need to drop some commitments?

  17. Do you need to change your lifestyle?

  18. Should you take inventory and decide what is important in your life and set up some priorities?

  19. Develop some rituals

  20. Eat together

  21. Hold hands every chance you get

  22. Kiss after the prayer

  23. Have family devotions

  24. Kiss coming and going

  25. Have dates with your children and spouse

  26. Say you love each other, hug, touch

  27. Be expressive

  28. Look for romantic things to do for your spouse

  29. Write love notes

  30. How have you shown God that He is the priority of your life?

  31. Seek Him first Matthew 6:33

  32. Spend time with God

  33. In prayer

  34. In worship services

  35. In Bible reading

  36. Would it be obvious that God is a priority in your life by the way you spend your time?

  37. Do you need to rearrange your schedule?

  38. Do you need to drop some commitments?

  39. Do you need to change your lifestyle?

  40. Do you need to take inventory of what is really important in your life?

  41. You need to develop some rituals in your life

  42. Devotional life

  43. Worship service

  44. Honoring God with your money

  45. You need to be expressive

  46. How much do you talk about Him and your relationship with Him?

  47. How much do you tell Him that you love Him?

  48. How do you worship Him in the services, in song, in listening, in responding, in giving

  49. Not allowing obstacles to hinder your love Genesis 29:30 And he went in also unto Rachel, and he loved also Rachel more than Leah, and served with him yet seven other years

  50. Jacob realizes that Laban has deceived him and given him the wrong woman

  51. To get Rachel he will end up serving 14 years

  52. Setbacks, problems, adversity often mess up your marriage because you are focused on the wrong thing

  53. You are focused on you

  54. You are not focused on your spouse

  55. Do not criticize or allow others to do so

  56. Fight fair

  57. Give your spouse some space

  58. Do not be selfish in this relationship

  59. Serve God together as a family

  60. Let your overcoming problems express your love

  61. To make God your priority you will need to follow Him no matter what the cost

  62. Nowhere in the Bible does it say serve Him for the blessings

  63. Jesus said if you wanted to serve Him you had to take up your cross and follow Him

  64. Following Jesus is a life of sacrifice

  65. Loving regardless of what your spouse can do for you Genesis 29:31 And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren.

  66. Rachel could not have children

  67. She feels that her worth has devalued but he loves her without regard to what he gets

  68. Encourage each other with positive comments like Hannah’s husband did-am I not better to you than 10 sons I Samuel 1:8 Then said Elkanah her husband to her, Hannah, why weepest thou? and why eatest thou not? and why is thy heart grieved? am not I better to thee than ten sons?

  69. Accept your spouse as they are

  70. Meditate on the good things about your family, your spouse

  71. Have a funeral--literally think of what you would say at the funeral-be honest-if you think right you will act right

  72. You would do anything to get them back

  73. You would remember all the good times

  74. You would tell everyone about their good character

  75. Seek God not for what you can get but because you love Him because He first loved you.

  76. Meditate on all that He has done for you

  77. Consider what would be important if you were 10 minutes from dying

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