Dealing with people
This study is from the same counselor; Hunt, June. Biblical Counseling Keys on Conflict Resolution: Solving Your People Problems. Dallas, TX: Hope For The Heart, 2008.
Hunt says: “Conflicts are disagreements, struggles, or battles over opposing issues or principles.”
We need to help people find answers. I have failed in this so many times. We hurt them maybe because we do not understand where they are in life. We don’t take the time to work with them individually to understand them and their problems. What is hurting or bothering them. Instead of getting them to harmony we fail. We want to live at peace with all people and walk in one mind and one heart.
We have to mature in the Lord and in His ways. We want to be of good comfort, of one mind, living in peace. II Corinthians 13:11
Straight from her book is the following that I see the total need for in my life.
Question: “Is forgiveness the same as reconciliation?”
Answer: No. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. Forgiveness focuses on the offense, whereas reconciliation focuses on the relationship. Forgiveness requires no relationship, while reconciliation requires nurturing a relationship—a time of coming together in which two people, in agreement, are walking together toward the same goal. The Bible says,
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
We do not want to be the source and cause of contention. We want to have God change our prideful heart. We want to not be so hard and direct. We want to use the exact right words to be a blessing and not to hurt.
Proverbs 27:17 speaks of iron sharpening but that doesn’t mean we need to be so hard. God didn’t call us to be a drill sergeant or even a coach.
So He calls on us to do the things that make for peace and build each other up Romans 14:19.
Working with people is always messy so I need to work especially hard at staying clean. I do not want to take carnality into the mix or people will get hurt.