W. Austin Gardner
Biblical Communication 6
Pleasant words are our goal. Words that are sweet to the soul and health to the bones are what we desire to use. Words that bless and energize. People are already hurting. They need our help and not to be hurt. Proverbs 16:24
The ungodly dig up evil. The ungodly look for gossip to spread. The ungodly want to burn people. They use words to hurt. They are worthless spiritually speaking and plot evil and use their tongue to burn everything they can to the ground. That is what the Bible says in Proverbs 16:27-28. These froward people are false. They whisper and separate the best of friends. They need not know the truth or tell the truth. Our carnality looks for a grain of truth and then imagines an entire harvest.
In Proverbs 17:9, we find that those who love and want to express their love cover the transgression, the offense. They are seeking to develop a friendship, a bond, and express love. Some love to talk about the offenses, failures, and transgressions of others. According to the wise man, they are simply seeking to destroy long-term, existing friendships any way they can. If you can find an offense, you can kiss your friendship goodbye if you are not filled with love.
Church discipline even was never meant to shun or cast someone out. It was never meant to destroy. Its true purpose was to deepen love and friendship. It wasn’t to have long conversations about the offense, spread it, punish it but rather to rebuild the relationship.
The ones that know say very little. They can stay calm. They can have an excellent spirit about them. Everyone has an opinion, and all want in on the death-dealing discussion, but the wise says very little. He shows an excellent spirit. More wisdom calls for fewer words. The talkative often talk so much to hide that they know so little. We want to be understanding of others. Let’s keep our cool and not let the words rush out. Proverbs 17:27